MEN'S MENTAL HEALTH THERAPY
For men who feel overwhelmed, disconnected, stuck, or ashamed—whether you're 25 or 55
You're carrying more than you let on.
Maybe you're in your 20s, wondering why nothing feels right even though you're "supposed to" have it all ahead of you.
Maybe you're in your 30s or 40s, looking at what you've built and feeling empty.
Maybe you're starting over after everything fell apart.
On the outside, you might look fine. Or you might look like a mess. Either way, inside? You're overwhelmed. Tired. Angry at how quickly you react—or shut down. You feel lonely in ways you can't explain.
Nothing has to be "falling apart" for this to be real.
You can't keep doing it like this.
I'm not a prophet or a stone age man, just a mortal with potential of a superman
-David Bowie, Quicksand
Men often come to therapy because:
The emotional stuff:
Stress is turning into anger
They're snapping at their partner, kids, or coworkers
They feel numb or quiet on the inside
They can't enjoy anything anymore
They're shutting down emotionally
They feel ashamed of their reactions
They don't know how to talk about feelings
The identity stuff:
Something feels "off," but they can't name it
They're stuck between who they were told to be and who they actually are
They're questioning everything they thought they wanted
They feel behind their peers or like they're failing at adulthood
They don't know who they are outside of work/relationships/expectations
The life transition stuff:
First real relationship and terrified of screwing it up
Career that looked good on paper but feels meaningless
Breakup, divorce, or loss that broke something open
Just came out and processing what that means
Successful on paper but miserable in their life
The survival stuff:
They've been holding it together for so long they forgot what "not holding it together" even means
Childhood trauma they've never talked about
Always had to be the strong one, the provider, the one who handles it
Men are taught to be strong, handle it, keep it together, not burden anyone. Those rules worked—until they didn't.
YOU DON'T NEED A LECTURE.
YOU NEED A PLACE WHERE YOU DON'T HAVE TO PERFORM.
Working with men is a major part of my practice. Most men don't want "therapy." They want:
Clarity
Steadiness
Honesty
Someone who gets how overwhelming emotions can feel
Someone who won't judge them
Someone who helps them understand what's going on inside
That's what I offer.
HOW MEN'S THERAPY WITH ME WORKS
Grounded – We move at a pace that makes sense for your nervous system.
Relational – We build trust slowly. You don't need to open up all at once.
Practical – We look at what's happening in your reactions, body, and emotions—and why.
Depth-Oriented – We're not just doing coping skills. We're understanding the roots of anger, shame, anxiety, and withdrawal.
Nonjudgmental – Nothing you say will shock me. This is a space where you don't have to pretend.
Trauma-Informed – Many men are carrying more trauma than they know. It shows up as shutdown, anger, numbness, or hyper-independence.
FOR MEN IN THEIR 20s AND EARLY 30s:
You don't need to wait until you've "really fucked up your life" to deserve help.
A lot of younger men come to therapy because:
They're repeating patterns they saw growing up and want to stop now
They feel behind everyone else and don't know how to catch up
First serious relationship is bringing up everything they've avoided
They just came out and their family rejected them
They're drowning in shame they can't name
They're smart, capable, functional—and completely numb inside
They have no idea who they are outside of what others expect
You're not "too young" to have real problems. You're just young enough to interrupt the patterns before they define your entire adult life.
The work is the same whether you're 25 or 55: understanding what happened, feeling what you've been avoiding, and building a life that actually feels like yours.
METHODS I USE WITH MEN
Existential–Phenomenological Therapy – We talk about your actual lived experience, not labels.
EMDR – For men carrying shame, trauma, or stuck emotional patterns.
Brainspotting – For men who struggle to "talk about it" or feel everything "just shuts off."
Flash Technique – A gentle method for reducing emotional intensity. Effective for men who fear being flooded.
KAP Preparation & Integration – For men approved by a medical prescriber, ketamine work can help access emotions that feel walled off.
COMMON CHALLENGES MEN BRING TO THERAPY
Anger that comes out too fast – You're not "an angry man." Your nervous system is overwhelmed.
Shutting down emotionally – You weren't given language or safety to feel.
Relationship issues – Conflict, distance, miscommunication—all can shift.
Numbness – Feeling nothing is also a trauma response.
Shame – Feeling not good enough. Feeling like a disappointment.
Identity confusion – "What am I doing with my life?" "Who even am I anymore?"
Hyper-independence – Trying to handle everything alone—long past exhaustion.
WHAT BEGINS TO SHIFT
Through this work, men often begin to:
Feel more grounded and present
Understand their emotions instead of fearing them
Have fewer angry or reactive moments
Communicate more clearly
Feel closer to their partner and kids
Soften shame
Rebuild self-respect
Feel like a whole, coherent person
Men often say: "I finally understand what's going on inside me." "I'm calmer." "I don't blow up the same way anymore." "I feel connected again."
You don't have to keep white-knuckling your way through life
You can be strong and overwhelmed. Capable and exhausted. Successful and hurting. A good man and someone who needs help.
If you're ready to stop doing it alone, I'm here.