Epoché Psychotherapy

Ethics of Encounter

Before technique, ethics. Before interpretation, the face.

The therapist who calls herself liberatory
charges four hundred dollars.
The sliding scale has a waitlist.
The waitlist is two years.

A locked door, a sign: welcome.

Rhetoric approaches sideways,
solicits your yes
before you have spoken.

The therapist arrives with a framework.
The client arrives with a body.

One knows in advance.
One does not.

We live from good soup—
what nourishes, what we return to.

The therapist who does not know
what they live from
will feed themselves
with someone else's hunger.

The dwelling hollows out
the space where welcome becomes possible.

You cannot invite someone
into a home you do not have.

A room furnished
with someone else's unsorted boxes
is not welcome. It is storage.

A client says:
I felt like I was nothing, but it wasn't scary.

The therapist says:
A mystical experience.

The client nods.
They no longer know what it was.

A client says:
I felt like I was nothing, but it wasn't scary.

Silence.

Like the weight of having to be someone just... set down.

Now they know.

The DSM: suffering
seen from outside.

The intake form: questions
the institution decided matter.

The treatment plan: a language
insurance recognizes.

None of these is the face.

I use these instruments.
I bill. I diagnose. I document.

I hold them the way you hold
a photograph of someone—
it is not them.

The client sits across from me.

Not their history.
Not their attachment style.
Not the target we identified.

The face
exceeds what I think I know.

They can say something
that overturns.

Asymmetry:

Everyone talks about the therapist's power.

The therapist holds responsibility.
The client holds refusal.

Before technique, ethics.
Before interpretation, the face.
Before knowing, willingness.

The client is your teacher.
Everything else follows,
or it is violence.

This document totalizes.
Claims. Positions.

The saying becomes said.

So: apologia.
A movement away—
apo, from + logos, discourse.

You can say that's not it.

I am obligated to listen.
You are not obligated to speak.

A locked door with a sign that says welcome
is not an open door.

This door is open.
I cannot make you enter.